Sep
15
2014

Abstinence or safe sex?

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I can remember being in the eighth grade and it was time for us to learn about sex. The way the school set it up was to have a guest speaker come and discuss sex; they felt it would make the students feel a little bit more comfortable if they could talk to or ask questions about sex if they were talking to a stranger. But there was a big issue apparently when the school sent home letters about this grade wide discussion because we had to take home and return parent signed permission slips saying it was ok for us to attend this big seminar. Of course the speaker talked about abstaining from sex and what would happen if you did not. We were pretty much told not to have sex if you are not married unless you want to contract AIDS or become pregnant. The speaker did not even bother to talk about safe sex, the comment “if you are thinking about having sex, this is what you should do”, was never said. That just makes me wonder how are supposed to be preparing our students for life if  they are not completely aware of all the alternatives or options.  Is it not better to explain to young adults that although it is important and probably better to wait until you are married that however if you are going to engage in sex before then this is how u should handle it? And along with teaching about sex it should not be one sided either; guys should not hold the responsibility of providing protection alone. If it takes two to engage in sex why not educate BOTH girls and guys on the many options they have when it comes to protection: condoms for both males and females, birth control (its many options), the diaphragm, fertility awareness, etc. When both sexes are educated on using some form of protection it can reduce the number of teenage parents as well as the spreading of sexual transmitted diseases. Although no one wants to talk about the spreading of STDs it is common and at a very high number among young adults. This may be because no one wants to talk about it; it is always brushed under the rug. And surprisingly studies have shown where they have asked teenage students what would or could be the worst possible outcome that could result from having unprotected sex: most students said pregnancy. WOW!!! They would be more devastated over having a baby as opposed to contracting a disease that may or may not be curable. I believe that all boils down to their lack of education; which brings me back to my topic. Would it not be more beneficial if they were educated on every and anything related to sex? I do understand that it is a very touchy subject and no one ever wants to talk about it especially in public but it has to be done so why not do it and make sure it is effective and beneficial. The reason school boards probably felt it was important to talk about sex in the first place is because of teenage pregnancy so why not cover all grounds with it. Teenage pregnancy might also be an issue but the percentage might drop if students are being educated on everything there is to know about sex.

With the knowledge you have now about sex, think about what all you did not know or understand when your school decided to have the sex talk. Do you not feel cheated? Are you not angry that they did not tell the whole truth?

51 thoughts on “Abstinence or safe sex?”

  1. yes education on the topic of sex is the true way to go. i guess i was lucky to have parents that talked openly about sex and the dangers of STD’s. of course pregnancy was also discussed but my siblings were well informed about sex. I agree with on getting both parties together and explaining how things work what are the best practices. If we help young teen with some their decisions there is a great possibility that teen parenthood would drop not to mention the AIDS rate could also drop. Sex is a touchy topic for some and we’ve got to get past that awkward feeling it might just save some teens lives.

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  2. Sex education is one of the most difficult subject to treat and as you precise it well in your post, if we want to reduce the occurrence of STD’s through education, we need to do that completely and for everyone.
    However, as Steven said in his previous comments, “we’ve got to get past that awkward feeling.”
    Let’s think a minute, why do we speak about an “awkward feeling”?
    Well, I am strongly convinced that part of the answer relies in the word “culture” which means the culture that everyone appropriate himself through his parents and his various experiences during childhood.
    I do not have a definitive solution to the problem you raised, but I think we really need to take into account the fact that approach to sex holds a very cultural aspect and therefore it is very difficult to succeed in imposing a similar sex education program across all the United States. We cannot talk about sex in the same way to a child who is growing up within a very religious family and to a child who got used to form its opinions independently in a more autonomous way.
    I just make an observation here but I think that before we can create an “effective” sex education program for everyone, we definitely need to make sure of creating a solid framework that reassures both parents and children.

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  3. I completely agree that schools tend to just graze over the aspect of sexually transmitted diseases. I have to admit that even as a college student, I don’t know much about them either. I always thought that pregnancy was the big issue because it seemed to me that it happened more than catching a STD, but they are probably about equal. They should definitely teach more about the STD side of things.

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  6. Abstinence is the practice of not having sex. It means not having sexual intercourse (having vaginal, anal, or oral sex) before marriage. Abstinence is an effective way to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). It is also a form of birth control. Some people choose abstinence because they do not want to have children or they are waiting until they are ready to get married. Others choose abstinence because they believe it is the right thing to do in order to stay pure.
    There are many types of abstinence. One kind is abstaining from all sexual activity. Another type is only having sex within the context of marriage. Other forms include delaying first intercourse, using a condom every time you have sex, or using birth control pills, patches, rings, or injections for heardle women who want to avoid pregnancy.
    Abstinence can be a lifelong choice. However, it is important to remember that abstinence does not protect against STIs and pregnancy. To be safe, use a condom every time you have sex.

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  11. Is it not preferable to educate young adults on the proper protocol to follow if they choose to have sex before being married, even though it is vital and likely preferable to wait till then? Along with education about sex, it should also not be one-sided; men should not be solely responsible for offering safety. If it takes two to have sex, why not teach BOTH https://www.babylongirls.co.uk girls and guys about the various alternatives they have for protection, such as condoms for both sexes, birth control (and all of its options), the diaphragm, awareness of fertility issues, etc.

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