When We Gather, We Remember: An Afro-Filipino Reflection on Service, Joy, and Memorial Day
By Dr. Curtis Ladrillo Chamblee
I come from a lineage of service.
As an Afro-Filipino, I was born into a world where duty was not just expected, it was modeled. My father, uncles, and brother all enlisted in the United States Air Force. I followed that same path from 1995 to 1998, raising my right hand and stepping into a legacy that stretched across oceans and generations.
And while I served during peacetime, I knew that the weight of that uniform was never light. Even when the skies were clear, the role carried a deep and complex history, especially for someone like me, whose Blackness and brownness never came off with the uniform. My skin, my name, my very presence were always part of the story.
This Memorial Day, I remember not just the fallen, but the living legacies they left behind. I remember what it meant to serve as an Afro-Filipino man on American soil, under American command, while holding on to a rich heritage shaped by migration, resistance, and resilience. Service was never just about discipline or command. It was about community. And that is what gives me hope.
I think back to a Memorial Day spent on base at Andrews Air Force Base, where the dorms turned into a celebration of life and laughter. That day, we did not gather to mourn, we gathered to remember through joy. It started as a simple barbecue. Folks pulled up with coolers, plates of chicken and ribs, baked mac, lumpia, and potato salad with that one cousin’s secret recipe. And as the music turned up, the games came out. Spades on one table. Dominoes on another. The sound of bones slamming, trash talk flying, and laughter echoing through the courtyard reminded us that being alive and being together was itself a kind of tribute.
There were Black airmen from Mississippi, Puerto Rican NCOs who made sure we were fed, Filipino techs who slid you an extra helping if you said “Salamat.” We were a whole diaspora in uniform. That day, the base became a mosaic of memory, identity, and celebration. And as people flowed in from every dorm and hangar, it felt like we were doing more than throwing a party, we were creating sanctuary. Joy was our resistance. Community was our armor.
These moments shaped me just as much as the drills, the formations, or the creeds. They were formative not just for the man I was then, but for the scholar, teacher, and cultural worker I am today. My commitment to understanding the world, how identity, place, and history shape our sense of belonging, can be traced back to those moments in uniform, when we came together across lines of race, culture, and memory. The Air Force did not just give me structure. It gave me insight into how people carry their stories with them, how they build chosen families when they are far from home, and how shared struggle and shared laughter create unbreakable bonds.
That’s what Memorial Day means to me.
It is a reminder that service does not stop when the uniform comes off. It shows up in how we love, how we build, how we teach, and how we hold space for others. For those of us with complex identities, Afro, Filipino, American, service has always meant more than one thing at a time. It has meant making room for all our languages, all our lineages, and all our losses. And through it all, finding joy anyway.
Today, I honor those who never made it home, but I also uplift those who did, carrying invisible wounds and visible pride. I think of the families who gathered around folded flags, and the friends who keep their stories alive. I think of my fellow airmen, from every corner of the world, who shared ribs and laughter and music with me that Memorial Day in the dorms, reminding me that we serve not just for a nation, but for one another.
In a world that often feels heavy with grief, violence, and division, I still believe in what I learned on base that day which is, community saves lives. That joy is sacred. That stories matter.
And that service, when rooted in love and legacy, can be a force of healing.
So, this Memorial Day, I offer a simple reflection from an Afro-Filipino heart: when we gather, we remember. And when we remember, we rise.
Dr. Curtis Ladrillo Chamblee is an Afro-Filipino veteran, and critical cultural and media scholar whose research and public writing explore the intersections of identity, place, memory, and media. A former United States Air Force airman (1995–1998), Curtis brings lived experience into his work as a teacher and writer, examining how Blackness, Brownness, and belonging shape personal and communal histories. He currently serves as a doctoral candidate in Communication & Film at the University of Memphis and teaches in the First-Year Writing Program at the University of Minnesota. Curtis’s work honors the power of story, the resilience of community, and the sacredness of joy especially among those navigating complex cultural legacies.
